No matter how bad it is – that is just what it it is. What makes all the difference is what we do about it. Actually, I mean that literally! Are there things you can actually do to make the situation better? Make a plan and DO those things systematically. Start right away!
AND, then, what makes the rest of the difference is how we react to what happens. Remember, it is simply life. Stuff happens. Not because we deserve it. Not because everything always happens to you. Not because you can’t catch a break. Stuff just happens. It’s not always about you. So – how to react? What to do?
Look for laughter. Lots of studies have shown that people who find ways to laugh improve their immune system. Their physical systems also improve. The body fights off disease better. The “feel good” chemicals in the brain abound. The diaphragm and core get a workout that releases tensions that were clamped on one’s innards.
There are lots of anecdotal stories of people who are diagnosed with a terminal disease who decided to watch as many movies and shows that made them laugh out loud as they could – all the time. And they outlived their prognosis considerably. AND, they enjoyed the time they had, laughing with others instead of sinking into a “poor me” depression.
Laughter is a great medicine for what-ever negative stuff is happening around and to you. Of course you need to deal with that stuff to the level that you can as recommended above. But, at the same time, look for laughter stuff as well. I find myself laughing out loud at the strangest things. Commercials that strike me as absurd. Noticing someone walking their dog and they look so much alike! Kids at play. A scene in a book that I am reading. Just everyday things that I let strike my funny bone.
I keep in mind the advice that I got from my Doctor when I hurt my shoulder. It hurt when I tried to raise it too far up. He said “if it hurts when you do that, don’t do that. If it feels good – do that.” Simple advice. Laughing feels good. Do that!