Love always!

If you squeeze an orange you get sweet orange juice. If you squeeze a lemon you get sour lemon juice. What comes out if you are squeezed? What comes out is what fills you. If you are filled with doubt, fear, anger, despair, anxiety, etc. – that is what will come out when faced with pressure and adversity. If you are filled with hope, joy, helpfulness, wonder, gratitude, love, etc. – that is what will come out when faced with pressure and adversity. It just feels better if good stuff comes out.

So how do we get to the good stuff if we are filled with the bad stuff? It is quite simple (not easy but simple). Remember the concept that what you think about and hold central in your mind is what comes about (and grows)? We simply need to shift our thoughts and focus to what we want to come about. That, in my humble opinion, starts with love. It is very hard to hold all those negative things central if you can simply focus on love instead.

What sort of love you might well ask? The sort of love by a person:

  • Who wants to hold the door open for someone.
  • Who wants to help a stranger with that.
  • Who takes great joy in seeing the calmness of a beautiful sunset or sunrise.
  • Who looks forward with eager anticipation to making a special treat for that special person.
  • Who imagines the fabulous reason that person who cut you off must be heading to.
  • Who enjoys noticing the lights being green to help you get to where you need to be on time.
  • Who revels in the growth of the kiddies in your life.
  • Who learns from and does not repeat mistakes (rather than feeling done in by them).
  • Who learns from adversity but does not dwell on it.

Starting to get the idea? Make your own list of stuff you love and will love. This is not the time for goals and achievement. This is a time for just being and being in love.

When is the best time for this to become a central focus of you life? Right now! Don’t you just love that? And how often should you focus on this? Easy one. Always!

If you need to remember that the past is done, do that. It happened, it is done. It will only define you if you let it. Do not let it define you. That was then, this is now – now what?

Of course there are things that happen that you really hate and wish fervently had never happened. But it did. Just think about the actual facts, not the emotions. Adjust to whatever new facts exist today and live on with love in your heart for the lessons and challenges you received. It is what it is! Focus on love.

I close as always with “Live well, love always and laugh out loud every day”.

Live Well

The new year has commenced and lots of us have thought about and maybe even made some resolutions for the year. I have always encouraged folks to only share “move up” resolutions and not to share “give up” resolutions. Not for any other reason than people most often are quick to point out when you are not living up to your resolution. It is a good thing to have folks help us to remember to get back to the “move up” resolution. However, we don’t need to hear about how we are failing at giving up that “give up” resolution. We would feel bad, get defensive and then sooner than later, abandon our efforts.

How does that relate to Live Well? What I want us to think about early this year is to remember to LIVE. Not to just exist from one day to the next or to just get by. Rather, let’s live well. Be aware of what is happening and look for the “neatness” in it. We are enjoying our lives for a finite amount of time and we don’t have any real idea of how much time that is. So, why not make the conscious choice to live well, i.e.. fully? Go out with those friends for a snack. Take a walk in the absolutely freezing weather (for goodness sakes though be sure to dress warmly :-p). Stop everything for a few minutes and have a totally “do nothing” break. Clear away the clutter and enjoy the surroundings. Write that letter (or article or email) that you have been thinking of doing but have not quite gotten around to.

Use the good china. Use the new towels. Wear the good clothes even on the weekend. And, do it now. Tell the ones you love that you love them! I do mean to tell them. If you have had some sort of argument or disagreement, set it aside or make it right in some way as soon as you can. We don’t want to be stuck with the memory of harsh words as our last words with someone.

Live well. Enjoy. We live on one world! Peace! Love! Joy! Happiness!

Live well, love always and laugh out loud every day. 🙂

Year end. Year ahead.

This is the time of the year that we see all the clever recaps and look-backs of the year that is coming to a close. We do that as well. We look back at our year and remember the things we did and the things that happened to and around us.

You are probably recalling the bad stuff that happened to and around you. Not to worry – that is natural. Not too good for the feelings of happiness that we want but it is something we do and need to handle. Go ahead. Recall those things. They did happen (if you just think they happened but there is no evidence – reject it! It is imaginary). But, let them go. There is not a single thing you can do to make it so that those things did not happen. That was then, this is now.

Next recall the things that were good that occurred to and around you during the past year. Of course there were things! Bring them clearly to your mind. Focus on these things. What was good about them? How did you feel? How do you feel now while thinking about them? This feels better than thinking about the bad stuff right? So, choose! Focus your memory on the good stuff.

If some of the bad things have left consequences that you are dealing with now, that is just the way life works. We are where we are and we, again, have an opportunity to make choices. Choose to look at the good around you right now, figure out what you need to do to adjust to the current stuff, make plans to do what needs to be done and get started right now with the first step! (Well you can start after you finish reading this if you like. ;-))

Part of the year-end review should include a review about how you have done on your objectives (goals), both short term and long term. Did you achieve all? Of course not. Are the goals you have not met yet still important? If the answer is “not so much”, drop them from your list of things you want to achieve. If yes, carry them forward to next year. Next, what do you really, really, really, REALLY want to get done in the next 12 months? Make a list. Include the goals that are still important from last year.

Look at that list. Are there priorities that stand out for you? List that one first. What do YOU need to do to make that happen? Make a full list. Now put those things in the order that they will have to be done. Those are the steps that you can take that will lead to the achievement of that objective or goal (and a happy feeling next December when you review the year again. :-)). Do that for the next most important objective or goal you want to make sure comes about for you over the next year. And so on.

Print those lists out and keep them where you sit to do your planning for the month, week and day. Fit those steps that you can do into each area. Do one of those things right now! As Tony Robbins says: “take massive action”. Do! Act!

Continue to live well, love always and laugh out loud every day. Have a great year ahead. May it be the best yet!

Don’t waste it!

One of my closest friends shared this to me this morning. Unbeknownst to him, I had been rushed to emergency just a couple of days earlier. Not to worry, it turned out ok and I just required a top up of fluids. However, the timing of this little image was good. I do not need this sort of reminder to live life well usually but I know lots of others do. So I want to share it with any who might read this.

We shouldn’t need near death experiences or suffering the death of someone close to us to decide to be thankful for today. To be happy, looking forward to what is to come. To enjoy the love of others and sharing your love with others. Even randomly. It is a choice! Think about it. It’s a choice!

Choose to live well, love others and laugh out loud every day. 😎

Running just for me!

In an earlier writing I built upon the idea of doing what we can do that serves others. Today let’s focus a bit on just doing something for ourselves. I am going to concentrate on running but it also serves as a metaphor for whatever it is that you really want to do just for yourself. It could be writing poetry. It could be climbing that hill/mountain. It could be working up to lift a large weight. It could be learning a new language. Whatever it is, do it for yourself!

I have always wanted to run. It was a time that was just for me. I had nothing to prove to others. Others were not affected by how I ran. I ran just because I wanted to and I could. I had a very busy life as most do. A family and all those wonderful activities. Different work functions that allowed me to dedicate myself to helping/serving others. Being there for parents and in-laws in their end years, weeks, days and hours. I am a server by nature. What about you? I imagine you are as well.

Take some time just for yourself to do something just for yourself. I run. I always have – except when illness or disease prevented it. Then I worked hard to overcome the restrictions, do what I had to in order to recover and be able to get back to running. I consulted the Dr.’s and took the meds. I accepted that rather invasive surgery was needed, underwent that, recovered and adjusted to the new reality (much better than the disease!). If there are things that are getting in the way of you doing what you really want to do for yourself, do whatever you can to remove the blocks. This is your very own life and you need to find ways to do at least this one thing for yourself.

Remember, I am encouraging you to do this for yourself. You don’t need to earn awards and so on. You aren’t out to show the world. Well, actually, sometimes you want to have a tangible proof for yourself. Go for it! I ran a marathon in the National Capital run weekend when I was 55. I just wanted to have that little certificate to put on my den wall that was proof to me that I did it. To me it served to show what can happen if you just do it! There were months that I could not walk without a cane in my 30’s. Now I can run again. But very few people know about that. I did not do it to be able to show off my accomplishment to others. I still just did it for me.

Age does not need to get in the way of doing this thing for yourself. Remember, you are not doing it for others. Adjust as you must but do it anyways for yourself. It is part of living well, loving others and laughing out loud every day. 😎