A few minutes. Evaluate.

I am sure that you come across clever images on various social media that speak to you. It happens to me also. What do you do about it? Just observe it for a second or two and then pass on? Of course! We are busy folk and need to move on to the next thing. Sometimes we might even say to ourselves that we will come back to it and give it more attention later. That’s ok. Save the image and then focus on it during the time you have set aside each day for “meditation “. I put it in quotes as not everyone meditates. But, I hope by now you at least take a few minutes each day to evaluate the day and how it went for you.

The image that I have put here can be a good guide to help you in reflecting on how your day went. More importantly, it can serve as a good motivator for living the way you really want to. I know it is small but if you click on the image it will get larger. Just take note of what jumps out at you and grabs your attention first. Is it something that you feel good about because you already live that way consistently? Or is it something that you see as a weakness or want to change?

My purpose in writing this today is just to provide another tool to help in leading a life where we can be happy anyway. I use tools like this all the time and feel great reminding myself about what is “ten years in the future” important.

As usual I want to remind us all to “Live well, Love always and Laugh out loud every day.”

 

Year end. Year ahead.

This is the time of the year that we see all the clever recaps and look-backs of the year that is coming to a close. We do that as well. We look back at our year and remember the things we did and the things that happened to and around us.

You are probably recalling the bad stuff that happened to and around you. Not to worry – that is natural. Not too good for the feelings of happiness that we want but it is something we do and need to handle. Go ahead. Recall those things. They did happen (if you just think they happened but there is no evidence – reject it! It is imaginary). But, let them go. There is not a single thing you can do to make it so that those things did not happen. That was then, this is now.

Next recall the things that were good that occurred to and around you during the past year. Of course there were things! Bring them clearly to your mind. Focus on these things. What was good about them? How did you feel? How do you feel now while thinking about them? This feels better than thinking about the bad stuff right? So, choose! Focus your memory on the good stuff.

If some of the bad things have left consequences that you are dealing with now, that is just the way life works. We are where we are and we, again, have an opportunity to make choices. Choose to look at the good around you right now, figure out what you need to do to adjust to the current stuff, make plans to do what needs to be done and get started right now with the first step! (Well you can start after you finish reading this if you like. ;-))

Part of the year-end review should include a review about how you have done on your objectives (goals), both short term and long term. Did you achieve all? Of course not. Are the goals you have not met yet still important? If the answer is “not so much”, drop them from your list of things you want to achieve. If yes, carry them forward to next year. Next, what do you really, really, really, REALLY want to get done in the next 12 months? Make a list. Include the goals that are still important from last year.

Look at that list. Are there priorities that stand out for you? List that one first. What do YOU need to do to make that happen? Make a full list. Now put those things in the order that they will have to be done. Those are the steps that you can take that will lead to the achievement of that objective or goal (and a happy feeling next December when you review the year again. :-)). Do that for the next most important objective or goal you want to make sure comes about for you over the next year. And so on.

Print those lists out and keep them where you sit to do your planning for the month, week and day. Fit those steps that you can do into each area. Do one of those things right now! As Tony Robbins says: “take massive action”. Do! Act!

Continue to live well, love always and laugh out loud every day. Have a great year ahead. May it be the best yet!

Don’t waste it!

One of my closest friends shared this to me this morning. Unbeknownst to him, I had been rushed to emergency just a couple of days earlier. Not to worry, it turned out ok and I just required a top up of fluids. However, the timing of this little image was good. I do not need this sort of reminder to live life well usually but I know lots of others do. So I want to share it with any who might read this.

We shouldn’t need near death experiences or suffering the death of someone close to us to decide to be thankful for today. To be happy, looking forward to what is to come. To enjoy the love of others and sharing your love with others. Even randomly. It is a choice! Think about it. It’s a choice!

Choose to live well, love others and laugh out loud every day. 😎

Love – Hate


Lord make me an instrument of your peace

Where there is hatred … let me sow love

Francis of Assisi

Another short one today. It really is a simple and yet vital. We humans are a social species that absolutely cannot survive without each other. Literally! Yet every day we see hatred being expressed and acted out against “others”. Others are humans that have what we want, or are different in looks and/or beliefs, or are keeping us from our beliefs and activities … and so on. You know what I am talking about.

So how do we address differences? Start by acknowledging them. Then look for commonalities. Focusing on the commonalities, find ways to help each other live your lives in peaceful pursuit of contentment and happiness. I wrote a bit about this some time ago in “Universal Guidelines to Live By“. Another item that puts forward how we can live together is “Everything In Life Is Negotiations-pamphlet1.

We can disagree vehemently with others but do not make it personal with trolling and personal attacks. Attack the issue and put your views forward in ways to convince. Don’t sow hatred or personal ridicule … sow love and personal acceptance.

What are you good at doing?

If you can fish, fish. If you can sing, sing. If you can fight,fight. Determine what you can do. And do that.

We are mostly told that we need to find our passion and do that in order to be happy. I have spent huge amounts of time endeveavoring to learn exactly what my passion is so that I can be sure that I am doing what I should be doing. Don’t get me wrong, I have always been very happy doing what I was doing, I just wanted to be sure.

The above quote from Epictetus, a first century ex-Roman slave is actually a pretty good guide to doing what you should be doing. Don’t focus on finding out what your passion is if that seems difficult. Rather, focus on doing what you can do that serves others in some positive and useful way, and do that! Most of the time you will feel good doing what you do. Of course, there will be times when outside stuff gets in the way but we just have to keep on keeping on.

What are you good at doing? Can you find ways to do that in ways that serve others? How exactly can you see yourself doing that every day? Are there jobs or other sorts of opportunities that you can apply doing that? What do you need to do in order to qualify and get “work” using the skills you are good at doing? You are in the process of planning your future and moving into real happiness. You might find that you can earn a good living doing other things – but be sure that you find ways to build in enough time to do what you are good at doing!

Doing what you are good at doing is shorthand for doing  what makes you feel good and therefore happy. What are you good at? Do that!