Laugh out loud every day!

No matter how bad it is – that is just what it it is. What makes all the difference is what we do about it. Actually, I mean that literally! Are there things you can actually do to make the situation better? Make a plan and DO those things systematically. Start right away! 

AND, then, what makes the rest of the difference is how we react to what happens. Remember, it is simply life. Stuff happens. Not because we deserve it. Not because everything always happens to you. Not because you can’t catch a break. Stuff just happens. It’s not always about you. So – how to react? What to do?

Look for laughter. Lots of studies have shown that people who find ways to laugh improve their immune system. Their physical systems also improve. The body fights off disease better. The “feel good” chemicals in the brain abound. The diaphragm and core get a workout that releases tensions that were clamped on one’s innards.

There are lots of anecdotal stories of people who are diagnosed with a terminal disease who decided to watch as many movies and shows that made them laugh out loud as they could – all the time. And they outlived their prognosis considerably. AND, they enjoyed the time they had, laughing with others instead of sinking into a “poor me” depression.

Laughter is a great medicine for what-ever negative stuff is happening around and to you. Of course you need to deal with that stuff to the level that you can as recommended above. But, at the same time, look for laughter stuff as well. I find myself laughing out loud at the strangest things. Commercials that strike me as absurd. Noticing someone walking their dog and they look so much alike! Kids at play. A scene in a book that I am reading. Just everyday things that I let strike my funny bone.

I keep in mind the advice that I got from my Doctor when I hurt my shoulder. It hurt when I tried to raise it too far up. He said “if it hurts when you do that, don’t do that. If it feels good – do that.” Simple advice. Laughing feels good. Do that!

Love always!

If you squeeze an orange you get sweet orange juice. If you squeeze a lemon you get sour lemon juice. What comes out if you are squeezed? What comes out is what fills you. If you are filled with doubt, fear, anger, despair, anxiety, etc. – that is what will come out when faced with pressure and adversity. If you are filled with hope, joy, helpfulness, wonder, gratitude, love, etc. – that is what will come out when faced with pressure and adversity. It just feels better if good stuff comes out.

So how do we get to the good stuff if we are filled with the bad stuff? It is quite simple (not easy but simple). Remember the concept that what you think about and hold central in your mind is what comes about (and grows)? We simply need to shift our thoughts and focus to what we want to come about. That, in my humble opinion, starts with love. It is very hard to hold all those negative things central if you can simply focus on love instead.

What sort of love you might well ask? The sort of love by a person:

  • Who wants to hold the door open for someone.
  • Who wants to help a stranger with that.
  • Who takes great joy in seeing the calmness of a beautiful sunset or sunrise.
  • Who looks forward with eager anticipation to making a special treat for that special person.
  • Who imagines the fabulous reason that person who cut you off must be heading to.
  • Who enjoys noticing the lights being green to help you get to where you need to be on time.
  • Who revels in the growth of the kiddies in your life.
  • Who learns from and does not repeat mistakes (rather than feeling done in by them).
  • Who learns from adversity but does not dwell on it.

Starting to get the idea? Make your own list of stuff you love and will love. This is not the time for goals and achievement. This is a time for just being and being in love.

When is the best time for this to become a central focus of you life? Right now! Don’t you just love that? And how often should you focus on this? Easy one. Always!

If you need to remember that the past is done, do that. It happened, it is done. It will only define you if you let it. Do not let it define you. That was then, this is now – now what?

Of course there are things that happen that you really hate and wish fervently had never happened. But it did. Just think about the actual facts, not the emotions. Adjust to whatever new facts exist today and live on with love in your heart for the lessons and challenges you received. It is what it is! Focus on love.

I close as always with “Live well, love always and laugh out loud every day”.

Live Well

The new year has commenced and lots of us have thought about and maybe even made some resolutions for the year. I have always encouraged folks to only share “move up” resolutions and not to share “give up” resolutions. Not for any other reason than people most often are quick to point out when you are not living up to your resolution. It is a good thing to have folks help us to remember to get back to the “move up” resolution. However, we don’t need to hear about how we are failing at giving up that “give up” resolution. We would feel bad, get defensive and then sooner than later, abandon our efforts.

How does that relate to Live Well? What I want us to think about early this year is to remember to LIVE. Not to just exist from one day to the next or to just get by. Rather, let’s live well. Be aware of what is happening and look for the “neatness” in it. We are enjoying our lives for a finite amount of time and we don’t have any real idea of how much time that is. So, why not make the conscious choice to live well, i.e.. fully? Go out with those friends for a snack. Take a walk in the absolutely freezing weather (for goodness sakes though be sure to dress warmly :-p). Stop everything for a few minutes and have a totally “do nothing” break. Clear away the clutter and enjoy the surroundings. Write that letter (or article or email) that you have been thinking of doing but have not quite gotten around to.

Use the good china. Use the new towels. Wear the good clothes even on the weekend. And, do it now. Tell the ones you love that you love them! I do mean to tell them. If you have had some sort of argument or disagreement, set it aside or make it right in some way as soon as you can. We don’t want to be stuck with the memory of harsh words as our last words with someone.

Live well. Enjoy. We live on one world! Peace! Love! Joy! Happiness!

Live well, love always and laugh out loud every day. 🙂

Love – Hate


Lord make me an instrument of your peace

Where there is hatred … let me sow love

Francis of Assisi

Another short one today. It really is a simple and yet vital. We humans are a social species that absolutely cannot survive without each other. Literally! Yet every day we see hatred being expressed and acted out against “others”. Others are humans that have what we want, or are different in looks and/or beliefs, or are keeping us from our beliefs and activities … and so on. You know what I am talking about.

So how do we address differences? Start by acknowledging them. Then look for commonalities. Focusing on the commonalities, find ways to help each other live your lives in peaceful pursuit of contentment and happiness. I wrote a bit about this some time ago in “Universal Guidelines to Live By“. Another item that puts forward how we can live together is “Everything In Life Is Negotiations-pamphlet1.

We can disagree vehemently with others but do not make it personal with trolling and personal attacks. Attack the issue and put your views forward in ways to convince. Don’t sow hatred or personal ridicule … sow love and personal acceptance.

What are you good at doing?

If you can fish, fish. If you can sing, sing. If you can fight,fight. Determine what you can do. And do that.

We are mostly told that we need to find our passion and do that in order to be happy. I have spent huge amounts of time endeveavoring to learn exactly what my passion is so that I can be sure that I am doing what I should be doing. Don’t get me wrong, I have always been very happy doing what I was doing, I just wanted to be sure.

The above quote from Epictetus, a first century ex-Roman slave is actually a pretty good guide to doing what you should be doing. Don’t focus on finding out what your passion is if that seems difficult. Rather, focus on doing what you can do that serves others in some positive and useful way, and do that! Most of the time you will feel good doing what you do. Of course, there will be times when outside stuff gets in the way but we just have to keep on keeping on.

What are you good at doing? Can you find ways to do that in ways that serve others? How exactly can you see yourself doing that every day? Are there jobs or other sorts of opportunities that you can apply doing that? What do you need to do in order to qualify and get “work” using the skills you are good at doing? You are in the process of planning your future and moving into real happiness. You might find that you can earn a good living doing other things – but be sure that you find ways to build in enough time to do what you are good at doing!

Doing what you are good at doing is shorthand for doing  what makes you feel good and therefore happy. What are you good at? Do that!