My Dad died in 1996 but I continue to be Happy Anyway because of all that he was to me. You see, he is not gone in my mind. I still turn to him regularly for advice, opinions, guidance and praise.
Any guy can beget a child but it takes lots more to be a Dad.
- A Dad loves the child unconditionally and allows that love to show all the time.
- A Dad “plays” with the child in ways that teach great life lessons without needing to nag and pester.
- A Dad lives and openly demonstrates the values that are important to live by and this is what the child will see and emulate.
- A Dad will correct and impose age-appropriate discipline so the child learns how to operate in our society in ways that will bring success in whatever the child eventually chooses to do.
- A Dad will offer age appropriate advice when it is requested (or needed) and then will trust the child to make his/her own decision.
- A Dad will respect the right and need of the child to make theses decisions as part of the maturing process ( that never stops it seems :-)).
- A Dad will sometimes say no.
- A Dad will never stoop to “I told you so”. Rather, a Dad will be there and listen and give advice as and when requested.
A Dad does lots of other things. My Dad did all of these things and much more. I was always amazed that he continued to be “Dad” even as I approached middle age and beyond. What is a wonder is that he remains “Dad” and is there when I need him even though he is no longer with us. I don’t think a guy could ask for more.
Dads, be a strong and loving example to your children. Live your values. Do what you say! Give them the tools and then stand aside.
Live well, love always and laugh out loud every day with you children.